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For the Person of Christ or for Personal Preference?: Critiquing the Cause of Criticism

“So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift at the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Comes to terms quickly” (Matthew 5:23-25a, ESV).

How do we sort through criticism?  Is all criticism bad?  Is it all good?  Do we shrug it off?  Avoid it?  Quit when we receive it?  Let’s critique the cause of critics and criticism today!

Some people are difficult–but in a constructive way.  They challenge us in our walk with the person of Christ.  So one would say that are not difficult, but their exhortations may land in a difficult manner on us.  The end result, however, is being stronger in Christ.

Others are difficult in a destructive (or at least non-helpful) way.  They challenge us to walk in their personal preferences.  So one would say that they are difficult in that we risk working for their glory by their standard, and not for God’s.

I talk to quite a few pastor friends–and all of them (as with all people) deal with criticism.  All of us at some point have been among the critics and among the critiqued.  God calls us to be ones who are mature, able to discern truth from falsehood (Hebrews 5:11-14), but we must also discern the motives behind the criticisms.  Are we denying self and taking up the cross and following him?  Or are we exalting self, crucifying others, and following our own aims and desires and expecting others to follow suit?

Remember Thing from the Addams’ Family?

The beauty of the Body of Christ is amazing.  So many different personalities and backgrounds—and God brings them all together for unity and maturity.

Do you remember the Addam’s Family?  Remember Thing?  Thing is a dismembered hand that was part of the family, who would move around on his ‘fingers’ and find ways to make symbols to communicate.

While Thing brought high entertainment value to the black & white TV screen, there’s nothing funny about this in the context of the church.  Some want to function as a dismembered body, doing their own thing apart from the Head, who is Christ (Colossians 1:18-23). The church is the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12).  We are nothing without the head.

When you bring a criticism to the church about an issue, ask yourself the following questions to critique the criticism:

First, is the criticism you are bringing based on the person of Christ, or personal preference?  This takes some serious prayer, but also a willingness to let others in your life who will tell it like it is.  The Apostle Peter was told by the Apostle Paul in Galatians 2:11-14 that his actions were based on personal and cultural preference.  If you are teachable (that is, you understand you are a human being and do not have it all figured out), this will be a welcomed aspect of your sanctification.  If you are not teachable, always willing to teach, and seldom believe you have anything to learn from anyone else unless they have a radio ministry or have published a book, you’re headed for a fall.  Your ‘Christian walk’ is all about the steps you deem fit to take–and everyone must march in lockstep.

Secondly, if this is based upon a biblical issue, have you gone directly to the person to address this, or are you simply telling everyone else… maybe even guising it as a prayer concern? (I would even recommend this even if it was based on personal preference. Who knows? The issue that is bothering you so badly may disappear when you engage that person as a person the way Christ intended, rather than a distant enemy or annoyance.)  There have been times in my 20+ years of ministry when someone has come to me to complain about someone else.  My first step is to ask them, “Have you gone to them to express your concerns?”  Many times, the answer is, “No, I haven’t yet!”  After I encourage them to go, a time later they returned with another complaint.  ”Did you go and talk to them?”  ”Well, no, I didn’t feel led to at the time.”  So I would arrange a meeting right then, if possible–especially if it was after a worship time.  We don’t wait to feel led, for God has already led with his command (Matthew 5:21-26).

Thirdly, are you actively involved in serving the church as a servant of Christ, or merely looking as a spectator or as a judge in the Olympics–a removed observer? I ask this because it’s amazing when you are involved with a group of people, you begin to see how they serve, the attitude in which they serve, and how that service is not about merely serving themselves, but Christ and others. Didn’t Christ come not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45)?  When you’re not serving others, the only person that tends to matter is yourself. That’s not how God intended us to be.  The approximately 60 ‘one another’ passages in the NT give this away.

Fourthly, when speaking about the issue that is bothering you, do you use your words more to criticize and gossip about that issue or to pray about that issue? Prayer is the instrument God uses to change hearts. Maybe the heart of the one that troubles you needs to change–or maybe your heart needs to change!  

The path of least resistance is to complain and think only of what self wants. It’s easy to do that.

But if our critiques are based on biblical truths and biblical issues, then that is another blog post for another day, which will springboard from Ephesians 4:15. In this case, if it’s about personal preferences, then don’t raise them up to tests of faith. We are sinners–all of us. Some are in the demographic of being a sinner saved by grace. But others aren’t. We risk being very legalistic if we expect people to operate based on our Law rather than on God’s law in speaking the truth in love.

Time is too short for self to get in the way!  The world needs Christ!  Let not personal preference provide a stumbling block to the person and work of Christ!

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Links to Help Your Grip (4.20.2013)

The Marathoner’s Fragile Glory (David Niblack)

But when I walked out of the restaurant, I stepped into a world that had changed. Suddenly our achievements, our medals, and even whether we had finished the race became astonishingly trivial. The near-sacred enchantment of the Boston Marathon vanished before my eyes; our medals became mere pieces of metal around our necks, the finish line was only a band of colored paint, and we found ourselves in a new race to discover if our friends were safe amid the confusion and sadness. This race had an urgency the marathon never did. Death and evil openly entered the equation, and they changed the atmosphere completely.

A Focus on the Personal as Britons Bid Thatcher Farewell, New York Times (John F Burns and Alan Cowell)

Since dying of a stroke last week at 87, Britain’s longest-serving prime minister in 150 years — and the only woman to hold the office — continued to stir intense passions. At issue were the elaborate ceremony and estimated $15 million cost of a funeral in whose planning she had a major voice, as well as the socially disruptive consequences of her no-turning-back battles in the 1980s to shake Britain from its long postwar slump.

Kermit Gosnell and the Politics of Abortion (Ross Douthat, New York Times)

… if you want to hear honest talk about the realities of abortion, go speak with those abortion counselors and providers. Even the most radically pro-choice will tell you that the political discourse they hear about the subject, with its easy dichotomies and bumper-sticker boilerplate, has little correspondence to the messy, intricate stories of her patients. They hear about peace and guilt, relief and sin. And it is they who will acknowledge, whether we like it or not, that the rhetoric and imagery of the pro-life movement can touch on some basic emotional truths.

I Hate Flying, But I Love Jesus (Joe Thorn)

The only place I can find real comfort and peace is in the character of God and the hope of the gospel. It is not just that God is sovereign, but that he is good, and because of Jesus his work in my life is for his glory and my good.

Iranian pastor told to recant his faith, or else remain in prison (Baptist Press)

“The reality of Christian living is that difficulties or problems do arise in our lives,” Abedini wrote. “Persecution and difficulties are not new occurrences, but are seen often in the Christian life. It is through the suffering and tribulations that we are to enter the Kingdom of God.”

7 Wastes of Energy for Leaders (Ron Edmundson)

Wasting time and energy may be one of my biggest pet peeves as a leader. Some days I leave work and feel I never got off the treadmill. It’s physically and mentally draining.

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How to Find Peace in This Election Cycle

(This sermon was preached on Sunday, November 4, 2012 out of John 4:46-54 at Arapahoe Road Baptist Church in Centennial, CO where I pastor.  To listen to the audio, go to http://www.arbc.net/sermons.htm.)

On Wednesday nights, we spend time in prayer and in study of the Word—a time that I treasure with our church family. During one section of that time, we pray for physical needs. At the bottom of that first page, you will see a particular request asking for prayer for President Obama, our governmental leaders, and our nation. One of the lines that I use each week for the last few months is one that causes some affectionate eyerolls to commence, but nevertheless I say, “You may have heard that there is an election coming up!” A few courteous laughs come about, but behind those laughs is the moaning not simply of another bad joke, but by the fact that everyone is tired and so weary of the presidential race taking place. The primaries, the debates, the political ads, the campaigning have both sides charged up in hopes of a victory—but also ready for November 7th, the day after the election.

It’s funny how so many look at this election. Some of you in this place may love President Obama and hope he gets another four years—either because you love him or because you just don’t care for the Republican platform. The opposite could be said for Governor Romney—you may not be crazy about him, but you’re scared of another four years and may not be crazy about the Democrat platform. Some of you are considering not voting. If you are, you are considering voting third party because you just don’t like either candidate but you wish to vote your conscience and participate. Some of you have plans to head to Canada right now!

What’s hard to find right now is peace! There is a truckload at stake in this election. In fact, with the economy, the unemployment, things happening at home and abroad, I expect a record turnout for this election, to be honest. But this process causes quite a bit of turmoil. Can you trust either one of these men? Are they telling us the truth—or are they just trying to tickle our itching ears? Do we have to go to http://www.factcheck.org to see if they are on the level? Do they care about us—or just our vote? Will they represent us, or just their interests?

My aim this morning is to provide perspective! In the midst of the primaries, debates, TV advertisements, endorsements, and campaigns that you will not let this for one second cloud out the cross and empty tomb! Beware of becoming to fixated on the candidates that we forget that there is one who is Lord over all the dignitaries on the planet.

1. All earthly leaders have their limits—Jesus doesn’t.

46 So he came again to Cana in Galilee, where he had made the water wine. And at Capernaum there was an official whose son was ill. 47 When this man heard that Jesus had come from Judea to Galilee, he went to him and asked him to come down and heal his son, for he was at the point of death. 48 So Jesus said to him, “Unless you[a] see signs and wonders you will not believe.” 49 The official said to him, “Sir, come down before my child dies.” 50 Jesus said to him, “Go; your son will live.” The man believed the word that Jesus spoke to him and went on his way.

God has a way of getting our attention—especially that of a leader. The moment leaders of all stripes believe they are in control of all they survey, He puts something in our path over which they have no control. Such is the case with this leader—an “official” he is called. He is someone that works from the mighty Roman government. History bears out that Rome had an arsenal of gods at their disposal that they believe helped them and empowered them in their various endeavors. But those gods were of no help today, were they?

The Scriptures show us other leaders who pursued other gods. I’m in the process now of going through the Bible in 90 Days. Part of the Bible reading was through Exodus 11 when God told Moses to approach Pharaoh to allow the people of Israel to go outside the camp to worship and offer sacrifices. When Pharaoh refused nine times over, and God has set nine respective plagues to get their attention. When Pharoah refused that ninth time, God sent the plague of the firstborn—those who did not have the blood of the Lamb on the doorposts to ward off the angel of death—that plague hit every Egyptian home. That plague even hit Pharaoh’s home. Pharaoh was convinced he was invincible—but only One is invincible.

Do we know the backstory of this ruler? No, we don’t. We hesitate to speak where Scripture does not speak. But we do know this one other item—he worked for a Roman emperor, a Caesar. Caesars believed they were gods! In Acts, we see a place where Herod put on his royal robes, sat on his throne and spoke. In Acts 12:22-23, it says, “And the people were shouting, ‘The voice of a god, and not of a man!’ Immediately an angel of the Lord struck him down, because he did not give God the glory, and he was eaten by works and breathed his last” (Acts 12:22-23). Every leader that does not give glory to God and His Word—and especially leaders who believe they are in ultimate control will learn a significant lesson—we’re not!

The presidential candidates have learned this, or in the case of Governor Romney should he be elected will learn it, that they may believe they are in control. They make promises.

  • I’m going to create 12 million jobs. But presidents cannot create jobs. Policies can be attempted to be put in place—but does that not have to get through Congress.
  • I’m going to protect the unborn/give a woman the right to choose. Only if you appoint pro-life or pro-abortion judges, and even then Congress has to vote them in.

Every leader has limits. Yet this leader sensed something about Jesus—that He could help. But he thought Jesus was like a typical leader who had limits. He could do more than most—he could heal someone sick, but if he died then that would be outside of Jesus’ paygrade. “Come before my child dies.” This leader was very pro-life when it comes to his child, wasn’t he?

But this is the gospel truth we must see. Jesus did not simply come for this life alone. Some who hold to the prosperity gospel believe that Jesus wishes to prosper materially and presently, hinging all on your obedience. Some of you who have watched the primaries, the debates, the advertisements, and the campaign speeches may be focusing exclusively on the here and now. You’re putting all your eggs in the baskets of these candidates to turn this country around—and both candidates believe they can do this. But they have limits.

2. Politicians do not always keep their promises—Jesus always does.

Beginning in verse 50, we read:

“Jesus said to him, ‘Go; your son will live.” The man believed the word that Jesus spoke to him and went on his way. As he was going down, his servants met him, and told him that his son was recovering. So he asked them the hour when he began to get better, and they said to him, ‘Yesterday at the seventh hour the fever left him.’ The father knew that was the hour when Jesus has said to him, ‘Your son will live.’ And he himself believed, and all his household” (John 4:50-53).

It must be said that prior to this exchange, Jesus told not just this man but all the Galileans around him that they would only believe when they “see signs and wonders.” But that was not the case with this man. In his inquiry, he told Jesus to come down before his child dies. Jesus is one who knows hearts and knows the motives. He wasn’t asking out of doubt, he was asking the only one who could help and he asked out of desperation! This was not a theoretical question—this came down to brass tax.

So Jesus put it to him: “Go; your son will live.” The faith that this official demonstrated was incredible. He didn’t stay and wait for Jesus to come! He didn’t ask for proof that Jesus could do it. The apostle John tells us, “The man believed the word Jesus spoke to him and went on his way.” This is no small feat.

How many times does Jesus promise something, but our faith is extremely conditional. What do I mean? We put conditions on God to come through for us before we will believe. But this shows that we haven’t really grasped the gospel and all it’s implications.

Consider how this looks in various stages of our lives:

  • Dear God, if you give me a train set for Christmas this year, I will love you and follow you forever and ever.
  • Dear God, I know you died on the cross for my sins and that’s handled, but I’m devastated that my girlfriend broke up with me.
  • Dear God, if you bless me with good grades and a good job, I’ll love you.

That list could go on and on, couldn’t it? What if God doesn’t provide the train set? What if God sends that boyfriend or girlfriend on their way? What if we don’t get the grades or job we want? Does that mean God is somehow less than God? What we risk doing is allowing the circumstances of our lives (good and bad) cloud the cross and empty tomb?

We must intentionally focus on the concrete promises found in the black and white pages of Scripture to inform the events of our circumstances, and not the other way around.

Look with me at Romans 8:31-39:

31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be[a] against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? 33 Who shall bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us.[b] 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? 36 As it is written,

“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;
we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”

37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers,39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

The foundation of it all is Christ and his work on the cross! Look at the promises:

  • If God is for you, who can be against you? You say, “Lots of people in my life!” But ultimately, if God is for you, no one can ultimately do anything of eternal consequence to you. You are his!
  • If God did not spare His Son but gave him for us, will he not also give us all things? “All things?” Yes, everything we need to stay the course and keep the faith—if he is sufficient!
  • Who will bring a charge against His elect? God acquitted us of all charges through Christ.
  • Who will condemn us? Since Christ took our sin on the cross, no one!
  • Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Now notice here, even though they are Christians, does that mean that everything bad is removed from their lives? Look at what they experience: tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword. Not only are we conquerers, but more than conquerers. In Christ, He has obtain the victory over these things in our behalf—and the ‘more’ part is that nothing anywhere will separate us from the love of Christ.

Let’s revisit the visioneering and the aspect of magnifying Christ. What is big in your vision right now? Your empty bank account, your messy house, your bad grades, your job, your iPhone 5? Your illness, your relative’s illness, your house that hasn’t sold? The divorce that devastated your life, your children who have strayed from the Lord, your own heart that is straying from the Lord? Or—this election? Do you see how everything can cloud out the cross and empty tomb?

Politicians make promises left and right. We’ll create jobs, pay down the debt, balance the budget, make tax cuts/raise taxes, provide government healthcare or repeal the government health care plan. But do we know they will do it? I mean, do we really know they will keep their promise? Too many scandals and too many lies to protect them from those scandals reveal that many times politicians will say whatever they can to advance their own careers, no matter what. But the point is, you just don’t know!

With Christ, you don’t have to worry about him keeping his promises. In 2 Corinthians 1:20, the apostle Paul tells us that “All the promises of God are ‘Yes’ in Christ Jesus.” What does that mean? It means that Christ is the high point of God’s revelation. And since He conquered at the cross and the empty tomb, beating sin and death at its own game, then every promise that God made in regards to our salvation is a big “Yes” in Christ. God kept His Word—and it was sealed in Christ! He is the “Faithful and True.”

Jesus gave that Roman official His Word—and this Roman official believed it even when it seemed that everything was against it. Remember, his son was dying. He was at his wits end. He was out of control. There was nothing he could do but come to Jesus. And Jesus gave His Word, “and the man believed and went on his way.” Do you believe Jesus—even when you don’t know how it will end or how it could end the way He says it will?

This leader had a long ways to travel back. But his servants met him and told him that his son was getting better. When he asked when, he realized it was the same time that he spoke it. Before the man believed His Word, but it says in verse 53 that “He himself believed, and all his household.”

3. Everyone is looking for a savior–Jesus is that savior!

At the end of one of the debates, one of the candidates’ last sentence was very telling: “That’s why America is the hope of the earth.” Do we see the type of language this is? The “hope of the earth”? This is “savior” language! This is nothing new. John Winthrop during colonial times called America that “city on a hill.” Roosevelt vowed that the United States would make this world “safe for democracy.” America has been seen as the great hope of the earth in many, many ways that we don’t need to go into in this venue.

And so these men who are running for president are also seen as ‘savior’ figures that will help America get out of the slump its in and bring it back to greatness and stability. These men have very different plans for saving this nation. But there is one thing that we must know:

Both of them will make absolutely rotten saviors in the area where it counts—that of eternity! There will be a time when political elections and everything else of earth will be past. Then we will be standing before the Unchanging, Eternal, Unelected One who sits on the throne. And all the saviors of the world will be seen for what they are—sheer wannabes. They may stand for good things, have strong convictions, but they cannot touch the very core of who you are and why you are here.

Don’t let this election cloud out the very foundation of our salvation:  the cross where our sins were atoned for and where the victory was accomplished for our sins.  Christ rescued us from ourselves—He is the only One who can rescue us.  To find out more about what he’s accomplished, visit http://www.twowaystolive.com.  What a Savior we have!

Man of Sorrows! what a name
For the Son of God, who came
Ruined sinners to reclaim.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Bearing shame and scoffing rude,
In my place condemned He stood;
Sealed my pardon with His blood.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Guilty, vile, and helpless we;
Spotless Lamb of God was He;
“Full atonement!” can it be?
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

Lifted up was He to die;
“It is finished!” was His cry;
Now in Heav’n exalted high.
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

When He comes, our glorious King,
All His ransomed home to bring,
Then anew His song we’ll sing:
Hallelujah! What a Savior!

– Philip Bliss (1838-1876)

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“That’s the Way We’ve Always Done It”: The Wrong Answer for the Inquiring Minds

Established institutions worry about those who ‘rock the boat.’  So when newcomers express interest in an organization or become fully involved, they begin to look at their organization with new eyes.  Suddenly, the questions start to arise:  “How come we do this?”  “Why do we do it this way?”  “Has anyone ever tried this this way?” 

In too many instances, the splash of cold water comes along:  “That’s the way we’ve always done it.”  If this is where the conversation stops, and one is satisfied with that answer as ending the issue, then a problem exists. 

While I have not come across this phrase at my church (yet), I know I will by the law of averages.  Why?  Because in 20+ years of ministry, this has been an answer given at every stop I’ve had, numerous times. 

If I had the power, I would outlaw this phrase.  Why?  It’s lazy and unproductive.  By giving this answer (and being satisfied with it) does one the disservice of not analyzing and exploring the issue to see if it could be accomplished better, or if it needs to change, or if it needs to stop. 

So what is the right answer for inquiring minds? 

  • Find out how it began.  The reason why this event or program began may have served its purpose for a time.  But that time may have passed.  But it’s always good to go to the source. 
  • Think like a church planter.  Church planters examine Scripture and examine their culture and go from there.  Many times, we as established churches simply think within the paradigm of our traditions and what ‘worked’ in the past.  It’s good to start with a blank sheet of paper and the Word of God and go from there.
  • Be willing to cut bait or recalibrate.  If a program or event’s only pull is that it’s something we’ve always done but does little to advance the gospel or strengthen the church, we need to evaluate as to whether to cut bait (phase it out) or recalibrate and reorient something good into something great for the glory of God. 
  • Examine Scripture to see what is non-negotiable (such as in Acts 2:42-47; Matthew 22:37-40; Acts 4:32-37, etc.), and what is personal preference.  Churches cannot do everything!   Each week, we get mail and ideas from those inside and outside the church that we should do or must do.  Sometimes we can, other times we are able to do so with the resources we have.  Most of the time, we are able to visioneer and strategize to put things forward with the people and resources we have.  But everyone has a bias, Christian or non-Christian.  The secret that many have not realized is recognizing that which is a personal bias and preference, and that which serves as an absolute truth in regards to what Scripture outlines. 
  • Keep in mind there are actual people in the church.  So we see a ministry may need recalibrating or phased out.  Headstrong people would be ready to say, “Let’s do it!  It’s the right thing to do—let’s move!”  As someone once told me, “Easy there, big fella.”  You have another component—people!  People who are involved and invested in these ministries, if for no other reason than a comfort factor.  If those folks are not involved in the process of evaluating this area, you will lose whatever influence you may think you have or hope to have.   True leaders don’t just walk in front of their people, but walk with them.  Some change will be obvious to make and can be done quickly—other change will take time.  It’s better to bring them along by making the case and letting it simmer.  Whatever short-term gain you may have in the quick change will be a long-term loss in your influence because you are communicating that programs mean more than people.  That’s a bad day!

So the right answer?  Let’s take a look at it and see if this helps or hinders the vision God has given for us.   Paul told

I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead, and by his appearing and his kingdom: 2 preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching (2 Timothy 4:1-2, ESV).  Patience is a lost commodity on leaders, but patience is what is commanded.  Everything worth doing takes time, love, and teaching! 

May God help us as leaders to help our people ask the right questions!

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“I’ll Pray for Your Leadership, You Pray for My Follow-ship”

After a particularly joyous Sunday at our church where I pastor (with a fellowship to follow), one of our dear senior adults came up to me and engaged me in a conversation about the service.  Since I’m still learning the ebbs and flows of the church where Christ has placed me, I often use humor to scope out the lay of the land.  This time, our service went somewhat longer than usual, and I preached a few minutes longer than usual.  So I made a comment about having a talk to that “long-winded preacher we have.”   This time, though, I followed it up with, “We say when we start, but not when we end.  And God did something wonderful this morning.” 

How this person responded not only encouraged me, but reminded me of an important lesson.  He said, “Preacher Man, we have been trained here over the years to be done by 11:30.”  (He paused, and I honestly braced myself for what was to come.)  “But you’re just going to have to un-train us!  Keep preaching the Word!  It’s taking hold!” 

When we parted, he said to me, “I’ll pray for your leadership—you pray for my ‘follow-ship’.”   I hugged him and thanked him, promising him that I certainly would. 

No church is perfect!  At least, in my situation, if it was at one time, it lost it’s perfection the moment I set foot on the premises.  But you can’t love Jesus and hate His bride.  He’s called us to be a part of it with all its warts and wrinkles.  We know that He is working in us to make it  spotless and without blemish (Ephesians 5:28). 

John Maxwell once said, “If you are a leader or want to be a leader, and no one is following you—you’re just taking a long walk.” 

Are we leaders in our churches, but no one is following our lead?  We can react in one of the following ways:

  1. “Well, these people haven’t got it together.  They just need to get on-board.  I’m right—can’t they see that?  If they can’t, they must be so worldly as not to know better.”  These folks suffer from self-righteousness.  Don’t take time to share with them your struggles—they will subtly or not let you know that they just cannot relate to you.  If you’re a Christian, you should never struggle with Scripture reading, prayer, witnessing, or any other myriad of activities along this line.  You have to lead people from where they are to where they need to be with boldness mixed with compassion (speaking the truth in love—Ephesians 4:15). 
  2. “Who am I to lead any of this?  I’m only a sinner saved by grace, but that’s all.  Who would ever want to follow my lead!  I can barely lead myself.”  Trevin Wax recently posted how dishonoring to the Spirit of God it is to say you’re “just a sinner saved by grace.”  Take the ‘just’ out and recognize that the Spirit of God dwells in you through the atoning work of Christ.  And recognize that God calls all Christians to tasks, and has gifted all Christians to certain tasks.   We were not given a spirit of fear, but of “love and power and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7).  Rest on the fear of Christ, not on the fear of man.
  3. “Before we do anything, let’s find out what others think because I’m afraid to make this decision.”  This can be a good rule of thumb, especially with your key leaders.  In our situation here with the hurt that has taken place over the years from various fronts, the key lay leaders here need to know that the ministry leaders hear them and have an avenue in which to contribute to a conversation.  So whenever we make a key decision, they need to be in on the discussion.  And when it comes to the congregation, they need to be communicated with clearly.  But there is a balance in discussing/communicating, and balancing that with not leading at all until you know where the current is flowing (politicians get blistered for not saying anything until the latest polls are in, then lacing their speeches with those poll-driven talking points.)  Leaders have to lead.  If this is out of balance, then the leadership and ‘follow-ship’ become reversed.  God has placed shepherds and teachers to lead in proclaiming the Word of God and to lead the sheep into His pasture.   And we must lead the sheep boldly, instilling in them the confidence that they know the shepherd cares about them and their ultimate well-being.

One young minister lamented how people kept getting in the way of his ministry.  The older minister replied, “People are your ministry.”   There’s wisdom in this reply!  Christ has called us to minister to actual people.  May we ministers minister, and may all of us have a heart ready for others to minister to us! 

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Book Review: “Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln” by Doris Kearns Goodwin

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Historians over the last century have ranked Abraham Lincoln has one of the top two presidents in the history of the United States—most rank him first by a long shot. On the surface, the reason many cite is that his presidency coincided with the great turmoil and struggle in our history: the U.S. Civil War.

Doris Kearns Goodwin, author and historian extraordinaire, has penned a classic that could be classified not simply under “History > American History > Civil War,” but could stand as one of the finest books on leadership in print. Here is a description of the book from the Team of Rivals website:

Acclaimed historian Doris Kearns Goodwin illuminates Lincoln’s political genius in this highly original work, as the one-term congressman and prairie lawyer rises from obscurity to prevail over three gifted rivals of national reputation to become president.

On May 18, 1860, William H. Seward, Salmon P. Chase, Edward Bates, and Abraham Lincoln waited in their hometowns for the results from the Republican National Convention in Chicago. When Lincoln emerged as the victor, his rivals were dismayed and angry.

Throughout the turbulent 1850s, each had energetically sought the presidency as the conflict over slavery was leading inexorably to secession and civil war. That Lincoln succeeded, Goodwin demonstrates, was the result of a character that had been forged by life experiences that raised him above his more privileged and accomplished rivals. He won because he possessed an extraordinary ability to put himself in the place of other men, to experience what they were feeling, to understand their motives and desires.

It was this capacity that enabled Lincoln as president to bring his disgruntled opponents together, create the most unusual cabinet in history, and marshal their talents to the task of preserving the Union and winning the war.

We view the long, horrifying struggle from the vantage of the White House as Lincoln copes with incompetent generals, hostile congressmen, and his raucous cabinet. He overcomes these obstacles by winning the respect of his former competitors, and in the case of Seward, finds a loyal and crucial friend to see him through.

This brilliant multiple biography is centered on Lincoln’s mastery of men and how it shaped the most significant presidency in the nation’s history.

According to the website, Steven Spielberg is making a movie based on this book, focusing on the last four months of Lincoln’s life and presidency.

I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Lincoln demonstrates how to reconcile and work with those who are not merely different from him in personality and ambition, but are indeed rivals—each having believed at one point they deserved the presidency more than he. The way he earned their respect and loyalty is something to behold.

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Harmony in the Church At All Costs (Tozer)

[Taken from Tozer Daily Devotional by Literature Ministries International.]

Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. –1 Peter 5:8

Some misguided Christian leaders feel that they must preserve harmony at any cost, so they do everything possible to reduce friction. They should remember that there is no friction in a machine that has been shut down for the night. Turn off the power, and you will have no problem with moving parts. Also remember that there is a human society where there are no problems–the cemetery. The dead have no differences of opinion. They generate no heat, because they have no energy and no motion. But their penalty is sterility and complete lack of achievement.

What then is the conclusion of the matter? That problems are the price of progress, that friction is the concomitant of motion, that a live and expanding church will have a certain quota of difficulties as a result of its life and activity.

A Spirit-filled church will invite the anger of the enemy. This World: Playground or Battleground?, 112-113.

“Lord, thank You for the many signs that we are alive! Satan must see real life, and I guess that’s a good sign. Give us victory though, that we might not succomb to his attacks. Amen.”

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Gospel-Gripped Leadership: Three Ways to Deal with a Complaint

I am preaching through Acts at my church (Boone’s Creek Baptist Church, Lexington, KY) and have come to Acts 6:1-7, which I will preach this coming Sunday (July 31, 2011).  In verse 1, we read that, in the midst of the blossoming of the church, “a complaint arose from the Hellenists.”  What was the complaint?  You’ll have to read up on that—and come on Sunday!

Yet, there are three ways to deal with a complaint!  To be clear, I don’t have any particular episode in mind, just some general reflections from 20 years of ministry and 40 years (come October) of living.

Ignore it.  Just don’t address it at all.  Say to yourself that any complainer must be carnal and move on to those who don’t complain because non-complainers are Spirit-filled and love Jesus.  That’s not only bad leadership, that just plain silly.  (Of course, one has to take into consideration if this is coming from a Son-of-Diotrephes effect, of which Joe McKeever deals with beautifully.)

Internalize it.  Here is the polar opposite of ignoring it.  Take every complaint to heart, because regardless of what happens at a church or any business, if you’re the leader, it’s always a reflection on you and therefore your fault.  Another way to internalize it is personally:  every complaint you hear is equally valid.  One complaint about a program or a direction in the church grinds everything to a halt.  This is especially true if the aim of the church is to make everyone happy, forgetting that the aim of the church is to glorify God and produce Christ-like, Spirit-filled disciples. 

Investigate it.  Yes!  This one!  No blanket categorizing need apply here!  See the nature of the complaint—it may teach you something!  I shudder at times when I have not listened to a complaint when I should have!  Sort through the complaint and see if it’s just a personal preference or if it’s a significant issue that could effect the spiritual direction of the body of Christ.  This is what the apostles did—and what we as leaders must do!

Ultimately, we serve Jesus Christ!  And the role of a God-called leader in the church is to meet folks where they are and take them where Christ is, and there are may ways this can be (see Jude 21-24).  If complaints arise because some expect leaders to serve their personal preferences, then one can go from serving Jesus to serving people very quickly.  Pray for God-called leaders to serve Jesus first, having in mind the things of God rather than the things of men (Matthew 16:20-28). 

What think ye?

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C.J. Mahaney, Leaves of Absence, and a Merciful Confrontation

I first heard about this from Justin Taylor.  C.J. Mahaney is taking a leave of absence as head of Sovereign Grace Ministries.  Nothing unusual about leaves of absence.  Yet the transparency of C.J. is striking as to the reason for this leave:

Over the last few years some former pastors and leaders in Sovereign Grace have made charges against me and informed me about offenses they have with me as well as other leaders in Sovereign Grace. These charges are serious and they have been very grieving to read. These charges are not related to any immorality or financial impropriety, but this doesn’t minimize their serious nature, which include various expressions of pride, unentreatability, deceit, sinful judgment, and hypocrisy.

“These charges are not related to any immorality or financial impropriety.”  I’m thankful he clarified this, because the pattern of ministers leaving the ministry usually falls into these two categories.  What the nature of the offenses are is not our concern and would be conjecture and sheer speculation should we attempt to dissect his note.  The fact is that C.J. was confronted regarding “pride, unentreatability (or being unapproachable), decit, sinful judgment, and hypocrisy.”  The world considers this par for the course among leaders.  Yet, C.J. will have none of this.

He goes on:

I believe God is kindly disciplining me through this. I believe I have by the grace of God perceived a degree of my sin, and I have been grieved by my sin and its effects on others.  I have had the opportunity to confess my sin to some of those affected in various ways by my sin. And I am so very grateful for their forgiveness.  But I want to perceive and confess any and all sin I have committed.  Although my experience of conviction has already started—and this is an evidence of God’s mercy—I’m sure there is more for me to perceive and acknowledge.  Even with the charges I disagree with it has been beneficial to examine my soul and ask for the observation of others.  And I am resolved to take responsibility for my sin and every way my leadership has been deficient, and this would include making any appropriate confessions, public or private.  Most importantly I want to please God during this season of examination and evaluation.

So here is what I am going to do. I’ve asked to take a leave of absence in order to give time to considering these charges, examine my heart, and receive the appropriate help from others.  With the guidance of the SGM board, I would also hope to pursue reconciliation with former pastors of Sovereign Grace during this leave. I have stepped off the board and I will not be the President of Sovereign Grace Ministries during this period of examination and evaluation. In order for me to receive an objective evaluation in relation to these charges the board is securing the help of a third-party ministry that has no history of relationship with SGM. With counsel from that ministry, the board will determine the appropriate steps I should take going forward.   After processing these findings, the board will determine the appropriate steps I should take going forward.  This leave of absence will also help remove any impediment to the panel’s exploration that could potentially arise if I remained in my current position, and it will enable me to fully cooperate in the process.

To be clear: my aim for this is not to air Mahaney’s dirty laundry, but to show how God’s mercy is prevalent even in times of needed confrontation of sin.  At this point in the process, Mahaney is more concerned about his relationship with Christ and reconciling with his brothers in Christ more than keeping up appearances and holding on to his position.  He sees the need for personal holiness and personal examination.  He also sees the need for accountability with godly men who will deal with him in a gospel-gripped manner.

I encourage you to read the rest of Mahaney’s letter, along with Justin Taylor’s comments as well.  And pray for Mahaney and the rest of the Sovereign Grace Ministries leadership.  May they come through this stronger in Christ than before!

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Reflections on the Newspring Leadership Conference 2010

 

On September 16, 2010, I attended one of the best leadership conference I’ve ever been a part of—the first NewSpring Leadership Conference held at NewSpring Church in Anderson, South Carolina.  The lineup was combination of relatively new as well as seasoned leaders in the evangelical world.

Below are some quotes doled out at the conference.  Afterwards, I will give some impressions of the conference and NewSpring Church in general.

Perry Noble

  • “In the midst of planning and preparing, we must not forget about Jesus.”
  • “Before God will do something through us, He wants to do something great in us.”
  • “Disney and Microsoft should not outdream the church.”
  • “If we’re not willing to be uncomfortable, we will become unfaithful.”
  • “If you’re always accessible to people, you won’t be alone with God.”
  • “In the Bible, no work equals lazy, and no rest equals disobedient.”

Mark Driscoll

  • “Don’t become cause centered, but rather be Christ centered.”
  • “Do you want God to use you greatly?  Then He must wound you deeply.”
  • John Calvin: “Everything passes by or through the hand of God.”
  • “Jesus did not suffer so we would not suffer, but we would be like Him in suffering.”
  • “Suffering is a great clarifier.”
  • “God likes to prune before harvest.  Your ministry is filled with fruitless branches.”
  • “A religious culture does no provide safety for confession.”
  • “You don’t want to convert people to ‘religious people’ –they are the ones who murdered Jesus.

Jud Wilhite

  • "Reach out to the broken, and you will always have an audience."
  • “When people are talking more about your programming, props or humor than Jesus after church, you have failed.”
  • “See restriction as an opportunity.”
  • “Fight the martyr mentality (of not having what you would like in church).  Focus on what you do have.”

Francis Chan

  • "If you put your life story into scripture, would it look normal? Or would you look like the one who played it safe?"
  • “Being afraid means being part of the 98% of people, don’t loose your courage.”

Judah Smith:  “Matters of the Meantime”

  • “What do you do when you are not where you used to be, but not where you’re supposed to be? What you do in the meantime shapes vision.”
  • “When the disciples were in the storm, they didn’t jump ship—they stayed in the boat.”
  • “Just because you have delay, doesn’t mean your dream is denied.”
  • "What do you do when you’re not where you used to be, but not where you’re supposed to be? Stay in the boat!"

Steven Furtick:

  • “You can borrow someone else’s faith until you have the maturity to have your own.”
  • “Immediate obedience is underrated.”
  • "There’s just something about immediate obedience."
  • "If no one has laughed at your vision lately maybe its because its not big enough."
  • “You don’t need a lot of faith to finish, all you need is a little faith to get started."
  • "Your destiny is not connected to those who leave your life."
  • “God’s past performance is the best predictor of His future ability!”
  • "The most extraordinary acts of God begin with the most ordinary acts of obedience."
  • “Always be more concerned with who we are reaching than who we are keeping.”
  • “Err on the side of grace.”

Andy Stanley

  • “Stop thinking categorically and think relationally … Its easy to place people in categories when you don’t have a relationship"
  • "Acceptance paves the way to influence"
  • “Churches always gravitate toward insiders rather than outsiders.”
  • “Churches always risk going from simplicity to complexity.”
  • “Churches risk having an attitude of preserving rather than advancing the Great Commission.”

 

Impressions on the Church

  • This church must have had over 200 volunteers who served in a myriad of different ways: parking, registration, greeting, helping, coffee house, book store, snack line, seating, and on and on and on.  It was a well-oiled machine and that made it very, very helpful.  And all of the volunteers were thankful to be a part of a great church.  It showed.
  • Their band rocked my face off.  Personally, I wasn’t crazy about it, but my friend Mark loved it.  Their music was an unabashed celebration of Jesus.  May ours be as well, regardless of style.
  • There were very few Christian symbols around the church.  No pews, but theatre seating (not a negative, mind you).  There were no pulpits, but a chair and table (not a negative, mind you—I don’t see one single pulpit mentioned in Scripture unless you are worshiping in a synagogue).  They’re vision is to reach those who are not being reached, so this is the direction they are moving.  In a city of 30,000 people, 10,000 are coming to their worship service and are hearing the Word. 
  • They went all out in their children’s area.
  • Their small groups are exclusively home groups, which is why we noticed no classrooms anywhere in their large campus.  Again—this is not a negative.  Just an observation.  Given how our REACH groups are expanding and working, I can see where this could be incredible.  All learning does not need to take place in a church building. 

Impressions of the Speakers

  • Positive:  Each of them have a trust and faith in the Lord to do great things for Him!
  • Positive:  Each of the speakers had a great way of encouraging and rallying the troops for Kingdom work.
  • Negative:  I was disappointed that Mark Driscoll and Steven Furtick felt it necessary to include a profanity for emphasis or shock value.  It’s like taking a pure bowl of water and putting a drop of potty water in that bowl.  Infects the whole thing.  That one word in each of their talks kept me from passing this talk on to other leaders in my church.  Call me a prude if you will.  It does not add to the message—it takes away big time.
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